York Samaritans: Asking directly about suicidal thoughts can help save lives

The leading suicide prevention charity is dispelling fears that talking about suicide will make things worse For World Suicide Prevention Day, Samaritans are providing tips on how to help look out for each other.

To mark World Suicide Prevention Day on 10th of September, York Samaritans is encouraging people in York and North Yorkshire not to be afraid to talk about suicidal thoughts and feelings if they are worried about someone. 

With the cost of living rising sharply, following an incredibly challenging few years, people may find themselves or loved ones feeling more worried or anxious, the UK’s leading suicide prevention charity is trying to reduce the stigma around suicide and urging people to look out for each other.

Evidence* shows that asking someone if they’re suicidal doesn’t make things worse, it can protect people, as it provides a crucial opportunity to open up, express their feelings and seek help.  

To help initiate conversations around suicidal thoughts, Samaritans has suggested asking direct questions including ‘Have you thought about ending your life?’ and ‘Are you saying that you want to die?’, as well as providing new tips and assets - available here.

Paul, 42, describes how opening up about his suicidal thoughts helped him get the support he needed: “I had a lot of trauma and I never really dealt with the triggers from my childhood. It all came to a halt when I tried to take my own life on several occasions. I was at the end of my own strength. I felt there was no way out – I couldn’t talk to anyone. I felt trapped.

“It was only when I began getting support that I started to accept that something wasn’t quite right. I’ve contacted Samaritans on numerous occasions. I would call at 2am with no hope. I can honestly say that those calls saved my life. 

“Now, I find talking to my partner and people close to me helps. Before I wouldn’t because of the stigma, and I was scared to. But I do now, and I can be more honest and have a real conversation.”

Colin Jackson, a Listening Volunteer at York Samaritans, said: “If someone is feeling suicidal, they might be distant or distracted or feel disconnected. Asking someone directly if they’re having suicidal thoughts can give them the chance to tell you how they feel.   

“You don’t have to be an expert, just being there to listen and showing you care can help. Letting them know they’re not a burden and there’s always someone they can turn to.

“Suicide can be seen as a taboo subject, so it is important people know it is OK to ask things like, “are you feeling suicidal?” as it helps the topic of suicide enter conversations more.” 

David Moyles, Branch Director at York Samaritans said: “Life for a lot of people is tough right now, and no-one should feel ashamed about sharing what’s challenging them or feel like there’s no one they can turn to.  

“It’s crucial that we all look out for each other and ask anyone you’re concerned about direct questions to allow them the time and space to express what they’re really going through. It could help save someone you love. Suicide can be preventable, and everyone has an important role to play.”

To find out more about York Samaritans and how you can support the Branch’s work visit https://www.samaritans.org/branches/york/ .

Anyone can contact Samaritans, free, 24/7, 365 days a year, on 116 123, email jo@samaritans.org or visit www.samaritans.org.